fix(ui): reflect default sort in join tables (#12084)

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### What?

This PR ensures defaultSort is reflected in join tables.

### Why?

Currently, default sort is not reflected in the join table state. The
data _is_ sorted correctly, but the table state sort is undefined. This
is mainly an issue for join fields with `orderable: true` because you
can't re-order the table until `order` is the selected sort column.

### How?

Added `defaultSort` prop to the `<ListQueryProvider />` in the
`<RelationshipTable />` and ensured the default state gets set in
`<ListQueryProvider />` when `modifySearchParams` is false.

**Before:**

<img width="1390" alt="Screenshot 2025-04-11 at 2 33 19 AM"
src="https://github.com/user-attachments/assets/4a008d98-d308-4397-a35a-69795e5a6070"
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**After:**

<img width="1362" alt="Screenshot 2025-04-11 at 3 04 07 AM"
src="https://github.com/user-attachments/assets/4748e354-36e4-451f-83e8-6f84fe58d5b5"
/>

Fixes #12083

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Co-authored-by: Germán Jabloñski <43938777+GermanJablo@users.noreply.github.com>

test/sort/e2e.spec.ts

@@ -82,19 +82,15 @@ describe('Sort functionality', () => {
     await page.getByText('Join A').click()
     await expect(page.locator('.sort-header button')).toHaveCount(2)
 
-    await page.locator('.sort-header button').nth(0).click()
     await assertRows(0, 'A', 'B', 'C', 'D')
     await moveRow(2, 3, 'success', 0) // move to middle
     await assertRows(0, 'A', 'C', 'B', 'D')
 
-    await page.locator('.sort-header button').nth(1).click()
     await assertRows(1, 'A', 'B', 'C', 'D')
     await moveRow(1, 4, 'success', 1) // move to end
     await assertRows(1, 'B', 'C', 'D', 'A')
 
     await page.reload()
-    await page.locator('.sort-header button').nth(0).click()
-    await page.locator('.sort-header button').nth(1).click()
     await assertRows(0, 'A', 'C', 'B', 'D')
     await assertRows(1, 'B', 'C', 'D', 'A')
   })